Dating Advice For Women - The Three C’s Of Attracting A Mate
Single and looking or married and cooking – maintaining attraction to your mate or attracting one to begin with – your feminine abilities can make you or break you. There is SO much more to attraction than your cleavage or the outfit you are wearing to the club, too. There are elements of the female personality that seriously create and intensify attraction for a man.
Most of know, though, that men are basically visual creatures in the beginning, so looking at the top of your game IS helpful. But, these personality traits can go where looks cannot – and that is worth A LOT, especially because they are genuine attributes and will not fade like the bloom of beauty.
The first attribute that really gets attraction going is completion. (Christian Carter really emphasizes this in his Catch Him and Keep Him eBook, I suggest you read it if you haven’t yet). I believe this may be one of the most important elements of attraction. A girl needs to be able to feel complete without a man. You need to have your own interests, your own likes and dislikes, and your own agenda. I see SO many girls just …melt….into their new love. They begin to like what he likes, they do everything that he does, etc. Now, developing new tastes is FINE. But – one of the most important pieces of dating advice for women out there is to PRESERVE your own INDIVIDUALITY.
And you know what – if he is watching baseball and you are so bored you are thinking of shaving your head – go find something else to do! Don’t do it in a snotty way or anything, just go read a novel, organize your closet or take a nap. It’s not offensive to him; it is demonstrating that you are your own person.
The second attribute that contributes to attraction is confidence. You may be thinking – why would a man want confidence? I mean, doesn’t that make you more…well…masculine? Nope. A man will be attracted to a confident girl because that attitude tells him that you are an alpha female - intelligent and STRONG. This, ladies, is a matter of evolution. The survival of the fittest. Men probably don’t even know it, but he wants a girl who has the potential to carry on his genetic footprint and produce strong, evolutionarily better offspring. This is called being the Alpha Female, and she is at the top of the stack. All the males want her.
Lastly the attractive girl commands respect. To most girls, this sounds a LOT like confidence. It is – with one exception. Your confidence it completely an inner game thing, which shows on the outside. Commanding respect, however, means that you teach others how to treat you – what you will and will not accept. I’m not saying go around giving orders to people – but if you are in a situation that may compromise your integrity – say so, be bold.
So keep these three C’s in mind when you are considering what you need to do to attract a man. Be complete, confident and command respect. Don’t forget to check out Christian Carter’s eBook, either, for many more tips on attraction and dating.
Posted on: Friday, August 22, 2008 at 8:59 am 
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